Learning to Love Me Time

Slip Dress Layered | The Luxi Look

Does anyone else just love spending time by themselves? Go to restaurants and movies alone? Take long walks by themselves? Stay at home on weekends and not make any plans? (I know, I’m a total grandma). In my opinion, there’s nothing better than some “me” time. It took a while, but I finally learned how to be alone (and kind of love it).

To be fair, I’m not alone all the time. I do live with my boyfriend and we spend a lot of our free time together. However, he travels a lot and is gone often. I’ve also been in almost 4 years of long distance relationships in the past, so I’m more than familiar with the feeling of being together but apart. It’s a strange feeling/totally sucks (a post for another day?).

Slip Dress Layered | The Luxi Look

Slip Dress Layered | The Luxi Look

Learning to Love Being Alone | The Luxi Look

I’m a firm believer in learning to love being alone. I know this isn’t easy for everyone, especially for my more extroverted friends that love being around people 24/7. Me? I love some time alone to cook a good dinner for one, read a book, catch up on trashy TV, and write. It wasn’t always so fun and easy, though. For a long time, I hated being by myself. I hated being in a long distance relationship. I hated being apart and having to spend time alone. #needy?

How to Be Alone | The Luxi Look

But over the years, I have come to really appreciate and cherish those moments – especially because I’ve never lived on my own (unless you count living in a hotel half of the week during my consulting days?). I love my relationship, but I also love spending time by myself. It’s liberating to have a night or a week to myself and do whatever the hell I want to, whenever I want. As you know, I am all about self love. The best way practice this is to spend time by yourself! Go to a cafe or wine bar and read by yourself. Go out to meals alone. Take walks. Find new hobbies and learn a new skill. There are so many things to do alone and who knows, you might even learn something new about yourself.

Do you love being alone? Hate it?

xx, Amy


74 Discussion to this post

  1. Maria says:

    I can relate to this. I love being alone every once in a while.

  2. Jasmine K says:

    So happy to read this post. I truly enjoy being alone. My significant other and I have opposite work schedules and we both work 60+ hours per week. We get to see each other about once a week, but I’ve gotten used to it. I cherish the moments when I finally get some “me” time. I love to hang out in bed and watch a movie by myself or cook an amazing meal and take blog photos = ) why not?! Hope you have a great weekend!

    – Jasmine K

    • Amy Zhang says:

      So impressed that you’re able to find time to blog with those work hours!! Sometimes a night alone is exactly what we need to decompress after a crazy long day of work! Love your attitude babe : ) xx

  3. laurajaneatelier says:

    what a chic look, I love the black

  4. Yiota says:

    I used to hate to be alone but now at this age, I love it. So many things to do, go for a walk, relax and have a pamper night, read a book, watch tv shows or watch my favourite youtubers. I enjoy so much having a ‘me’ time and it is really important to find time to do things we love. Great post! x


  5. I really enjoyed this post! Thank you for sharing 🙂

  6. I do agree, I love to have some me time, but for maximum one or two days, then I start missing my husband too much 😀 xx

  7. miri says:

    I do love being by myself. It is necessary so that you can organize your thoughts and get to know yourself better. I love your blog- you are both smart, conscious and beautiful! Deadly combination!!


    • Amy Zhang says:

      Wow, thank you Miri! I suppose as bloggers we have to enjoy some time alone, otherwise how would we ever find the time to blog? LOL. I really appreciate your message and kind words, thanks for stopping by! : ) xx

  8. I absolutely love my alone time! I traveled by myself for the first time this year and was surprised by how much I loved it!

  9. Jessica says:

    I totally agree!

    Great outfit girl x

    Jessica — NinetyCo 

  10. Carmelatte says:

    Ohh.. I’m in love with your outfit <3 and your overall look!


  11. Aldora Muses says:

    I can relate to this and guess I need my ME time too! I love spending time alone because that is when I can truly relax and be comfortable without being distracted by others 😀

    xx Aldora

  12. Ashley says:

    I think learning to be okay by yourself is sooo important, too! Great post, doll- and you look lovely!

    Le Stylo Rouge

  13. Thanks for another great article. I totally love being alone and have been living alone from last few years. Though i do get sick of it sometimes but yes i do enjoy reading a book or watching Netflix by myself or checking out new places! You definitely learn new things about yourself once you start living alone. You might like my recent post on something similar 🙂

  14. Totally!! I do love spending a lot of free time with my husband, but I can always manage to enjoy time with just myself…very important for people to be capable of that before getting into a relationship as well. Love that dress…great post!!


  15. And i forgot to mention about the dress! Its super gorgeous on you 🙂 love it!

  16. Mary says:

    Super cute and chic look! Love the combo with the sneakers x Love, Mary


  17. Keri says:

    Omg this is such a beautiful look, Amy!
    But I agree. I am naturally an introvert, but my bf goes to school about 6 hours away from me so I definitely have a lot of alone time. I don’t mind it though 🙂

    Enclothed Cognition

  18. Jessi Malay says:

    I am always up for some quality me time! It really helps me reflect and de-stress a little from the fast paced nature of everyday life 🙂 Love the outfit in this post babe! So casual and chic at the same time!

    XO Jessi,

  19. Jewel Clicks says:

    OMG! I love your look. I like your dress. So pretty!

  20. Ileana says:

    Really nice outfit for a nice woman amy!
    Please check my last post blog on MissGrey.ro

  21. I love my me time too! I also live with my boyfriend, and of course I love spending time with him but I sometimes I just want to chill own my own and watch all the girly things he won’t watch with me. I’ve taken trips (mostly) alone too and I really enjoy those.

    • Amy Zhang says:

      I can totally relate! Sometimes you just need a little time to yourself ; ) I also try to take a couple girls trips with my friends every year and those are always a ton of fun! xx

  22. Paula Loreti says:

    First of all, I just found your blog and I love it! This post was so great. I have a conflict in this topic bc I love being alone, but hate feeling lonely. And it’s not the same, but I tend so hard to forget about it. So I’m gonna have to keep working on it. Lovely post!


    • Amy Zhang says:

      Hi Paula, I’m so happy you stopped by!! I feel you on loving alone time, but hating the feeling of being lonely. It’s a really fine line between the two! When I feel lonely I try to keep myself busy, call my mom (lol), and try to pamper myself a little more than usual ; ) xx

  23. Mariann Yip says:

    I totally feel you love! I absolutely love spending time by myself and I think it’s actually great for personal growth.

  24. Jennifer says:

    I used to have a hard time being by myself, but as I grow older I naturally grew into it and now I cherish my “me” time. 🙂 Amazing and inspirational post!

  25. You look absolutely stunning in this LBD! Ah and I can totally relate to being alone; I love my down time as much as I love socializing; but sometimes doing things alone is quite invigorating too! Have a lovely week ahead! xo~ Lena

  26. Kathryn says:

    I definitely relate to this, as I really enjoy time to myself. That little poem from “milk + honey” is perfect! Also loving
    this look, especially those layered necklaces.

    Kathryn • simplykk.com

  27. sepatuholig says:

    Nice nice nice,,, love it!
    ig @grace_njio

  28. Seamless Sea says:

    I love having me time! My longterm relationship recently ended and I’ve been struggling to enjoy the “me time” now, since I know there’s not an “us time” later, but being alone allows for reflection and growth and is healthy when you have a good support network! I had to repin that milk & honey quote! I followed you on Pinterest too because how am I not following you already?!


    • Amy Zhang says:

      Hi Lindsey! I recently got back into Pinterest, it is so fun and addictive and strangely therapeutic… another fun thing to do when you have some “me” time ; ) will follow you as well!! I’m happy to hear you’re adjusting well to having more “me time” – it’s a hard transition but to your point, it’s a great time to learn about yourself, grow, and build that really strong support network. Thanks for reading and for your message – I hope you have a wonderful weekend! xx

  29. Lisa Linh says:

    Loved the post babe. Can’t wait to see you Monday!

  30. Love your casual weekend style! It’s so true following up is key to making a good impression and so simple. Yet it’s funny how some people skip it. Curious to know what you do for a living now haha!

    xx Yasmin

  31. I’m single so I spend a lot of time on my own. Sometimes I think I’ve turned into a hermit haha. But it makes me appreciate friend time more. But I do adore spending time on my own. It’s so nice to be alone with your thoughts sometimes.

    xx Yasmin

    • Amy Zhang says:

      Haha, I feel like a hermit sometimes too – going out can definitely be exhausting sometimes, especially after a long day or week of work!! Don’t apologize for that – just make sure you’re living the life you love and spending it with the people that matter to you (even if it’s just yourself sometimes : )) xx

  32. So many solid, good points here! In my last interview (second Career Girl Chat) with someone she was talking about the same thing about following up and sending a thank you email. It’s rare these days, isn’t it? That’s probably why it’s even more important to do it!!

    Jessica || Cubicle Chic

  33. P-and-P says:

    Nice post, I enjoyed reading it. 🙂
    Have a good Sunday. 🙂

    P&P style ♡ ☯ ☮ — DIY — fashion — and more — ☮ ☯ ♡

  34. Suzy Walsh says:

    Ohh! I love those sneakers <3
    Also, Find some cool pairs here -http://www.theiconic.com.au/adidas-originals/

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